Relationship Violence Warning Signs

Pay Attention to Cues When You Are Getting to Know Someone

• Tells you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or tries to control other elements of your life or relationship.
• Gets jealous when there is no reason.
• Drinks heavily, uses drugs, or tries to get you drunk.
• Berates you for not wanting to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with him/her to an isolated or personal place.
• Refuses to let you share any of the expenses of a date and gets angry when you offer to pay.
• Is physically violent to you or others, even if it's "just" grabbing and pushing to get his/her way.
• Acts in an intimidating way toward you by invading your "personal space" (sits too close, speaks as if he/she knows you much better than he/she does, touches you when you tell him/her not to).
• Is unable to handle sexual and emotional frustrations without becoming angry.
• Does not view you as an equal--because he/she is older or sees him/herself as smarter or socially superior.
• A man who thinks poorly of himself and guards his masculinity by acting tough.
• Goes through extreme mood changes (highs & lows).
• Is angry and threatening to the extent that you have changed your life so as not to anger him/her.

Help! Where to find it.

Counseling Services (645-2720)
120 Richmond Quad
Ellicott Complex

Crisis Services (834-3131)
24 hour telephone hotline

• Things to Try...
• Date Rape Prevention
• Referral and Resource List
• Legal Definitions
• What Men Can Do
• Alternatives to Vulnerability
• Acquaintance Rape: Overview

• Disability Services
• Wellness Education Services
• Health Services
• University Police
• Anti-Rape Task Force