Stages in Coming Out

Coming out is a process that is not limited to one time or place and it does not follow a linear course. It occurs when one acknowledges to oneself (often the most important and difficult aspect of coming out) and to others that one is lesbian, gay, bisexual, and/or transgendered. Coming out to one's self involves much introspection and self-appreciation. Coming out to others involves other potential risks and difficulties depending on who that person is coming out to, how engaged they are with them, how much power they have in the relationship, and how accepting they are.

Why come out?
It is a necessary part of developing a healthy and positive identity as an LGBT individual. It is more honest and real, and ends the stress of hiding or keeping a secret and living a double life. It reduces isolation and alienation and allows for increased support from other LGBT people. It allows LGBT people to live fuller lives.

What are people afraid of?
Rejection and loss of relationships, especially from family and friends who may not understand or approve.

Harassment and abuse from others, ranging from verbal insults to physical violence.

Institutionalized discrimination and prejudice, such as losing a job or not being promoted, being denied housing, and other equal opportunity rights.

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