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Sexual Assertiveness Questionnaire

The following is a questionnaire on sexual assertiveness as well as tips for preventing date rape. Respond to the questionnaire and then study your answers. Does anything stand out for you? Just how clear are you about what your rights are?

Know that there are no concrete “correct” answers, but this questionnaire is to help you reflect on your own attitudes toward sexual relationships. We sometimes don’t know what to do in certain situations, but sometimes, becoming aware of our own thoughts can help. See if anything stands out for you. If you aren’t sure about your answer to a certain question, it’s okay to have some gray area, but know what your gray areas are. Think about different situations and how the different questions may apply differently. Knowing your limits and being aware of your attitudes will help to keep your relationships healthy.

People have the right to:

1. Make their own decisions regarding intercourse or other sexual activity regardless of their partner's wishes.

Never Sometimes Always

2. Use or not use birth control regardless of their partner's wishes.

Never Sometimes Always

3. Tell their partner when they want to make love.

Never Sometimes Always

4. Tell their partner they don't want to make love.

Never Sometimes Always

5. Tell their partner they won't have intercourse without birth control.

Never Sometimes Always

6. Tell their partner they want to make love differently.

Never Sometimes Always

7. Masturbate to orgasm.

Never Sometimes Always

8. Tell their partner they are being too rough.

Never Sometimes Always

9. Tell their partner they want to be hugged or cuddled without sex.

Never Sometimes Always

10. Tell their relative they're uncomfortable being hugged or kissed in certain ways.

Never Sometimes Always

11. Ask their partner if they have been examined for S.T.D.'s.

Never Sometimes Always

12. Stop foreplay at any time, including the point of intercourse.

Never Sometimes Always

13. Refuse to have intercourse even though they may have had sex with their partner before and enjoyed it.

Never Sometimes Always

Questionnaire from HealthyPlaces.com


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