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If you are gay, lesbian or bisexual, or think you might be, it may be helpful to keep in mind the following suggestions as you move toward self-acceptance.

  • "Coming out" is a life-long process. You have the right to choose when, where and to whom you come out.
  • Test the waters. Talk about gay issues first to see the reactions of significant others in your life.
  • Don't expect immediate acceptance. Many people will be surprised by your revelation. They may need time to adjust and to re-examine old stereotypes and myths.
  • If you are rejected by someone after coming out, don't lose sight of your own self worth. Remember, you are just as valuable and worthy as you were before you told that person.
  • Clarify your own feelings about your sexuality before sharing them with others. Remember that coming out may be a difficult process and may require the assistance of a counselor or support group.

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Counseling Services
120 Richmond Quad
University at Buffalo
Buffalo, NY 14261-0053
Tel: (716) 645-2720
Fax: (716) 645-2175
Director: Sharon Mitchell
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